Do you agree or disagree: It is impossible to always be completely honest with your friends?
要对朋友绝对的诚实：1 相互诚实，才能获取彼此的信任，友谊才能维持长久2 只有诚实的朋友，才会开诚布公的帮助彼此
提出不足，监督改进不能对朋友绝对的诚实：1 朋友之间也需要善意的谎言2 人们会保护隐私
We can never over emphasis the importance of friends who help us get through hard time and keep us company in daily life. Though it is commonly believed that honesty and mutual trust are essential ingredients for people to maintain friendship in the long run, people usually have justified excuses to lie or encounter various situations under which they have to hide the truth. In fact, to be absolutely honest with friends is impossible.
To begin with, people sometimes tell white lies, in order to protect friends’ feelings and interests. Under certain circumstances, the so-called truth does no good to friends but bring many troubles. At this moment, although friends may appreciate our honesty, they still feel hurt and choose to keep distance with us, as our appearance will remind them the unhappy situation. Gradually, friends become estranged and feel difficult to patch up the relationship. Therefore, to avoid unnecessary frictions, people need white lies. For example, it is unwise to tell a female friend that she has gained weight and does not fit the new dress, if she comes to show her new look happily. The candid comments will severely discourage her confidence or even irritate her if she is sensitive on her appearance. On the contrary, white lies can help her keep positive and if necessary we could advise her to do more exercises to keep fit.
Secondly, people sometimes hide privacy with friends to avoid embarrassment and give themselves an opportunity to forget the past and have a new beginning. Inevitably, people encounter something unpleasant or even disgraceful, such as discomfiture and defeat. When asked by friends about those experiences, people either refuse to answer or make up another story. Furthermore, for some people who have suffered too much, they even move to a new place to start a new life and make new friends. In a new environment that no one knows him or her, the fake but well-meaning introduction of one’s background is therefore acceptable. Take a criminal who gets released from the prison as an example. With no offense, he usually chooses to hide the unmentionable experience behind bars to new friends met in gym in a new city that he tries to settle down.
To sum up, there is almost no unconditional honesty between friends. On the opposite, people need white lies to be in rapport with friends in the long term. Also, there are justified reasons for people to hide truth so as to avoid troubles.